All the time! It's my chief refrain - I'm not being heard, not being understood. And Ts are the biggest culprits (I've seen many Ts in the course of my therapy career) despite what I think is exceptional clarity and lucidity on my part in explaining myself .

It especially winds me up to get that 'but'. Not being heard and understood, that 'just' causes pain, but when I get lectured (even if well intentioned) about how I'm wrong or that I ought to do this that or the other - well yeah then I become very very frustrated and angry .

But then I have a lot of resentment anger and rage built up over the decades, for many many different reasons - so this kind of thing is just one more red flag to my anger bull.

Peridot can I ask, how do you deal with your anger, what do you do with it? Mine just sits there destroying me from the inside out .

Torn