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Old May 10, 2013, 06:28 PM
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Originally Posted by WorriedMom2013 View Post
my son is 10 now. Hes had a rough road up till now, and has a lot of anger. Most of that anger is completely understandable. The concern now is how he handles the emotions he has

Recently we have figured out that no form of discipline works for him. I could ground him to the ends of this earth (I've never gone to that extreme) and it does not phase him one bit. He simply looks at me and tells me he does not care. But within hours of being disciplined for something (typically he loses a priviledge, and for major things we take his books away which for a while was the only thing that was effective) hes acting out strongly. Most recently he has started peeing on his bedroom walls. When confronted about it, even when caught in the act, he solidly denied it. When finally faced with the fact he was caught, he admitted it and told us he did it because he was angry.

We are at a loss. He was such a happy little boy, and still is when not at home. But the moment we come home, he changes. We have set him an appointment with a psychiatrist on the advice of his counseling team. But as it stands I worry about him alot. Somethign is going on, somethings not quite right and I just want answers so we can start the process of helping him
Dear Nic,
There's always a pattern when you take a step back , and look at any given situation when it comes to parent/child interaction.
1.He knows exactly how you, or significant other will respond to his wide variety of behaviors. Be it calm, and cool, or acting out.
2. Discover what his triggers are, and craft a response that is entirely opposite of what he expects. This will catch him off guard, and possibly diffuse a potential outburst.
3. Consistency is the key.
4. Sounds like daily structure, and routine are critical.
5.Lastly for now, is what message are you sending when you praise, or discipline your son. Do not make promises that you may have to alter. If at any time you have to reprimand with a verbal warning, and he violates it, you MUST follow through with said consequences, if you fail to enforce it, subsequently the message you have sent is that there is NO price to pay for disobedience. Etc.......
PS. BOTH PARENTS MUST ACT IN CONCERT, MAKING AN AGREEMENT TO BACK THE OTHER UP FOR PARENTING TO SUCCEED IN ANY OF THESE CIRCUMSTANCES.

GOOD LUCK TO YOU ! And I am, Your Sad_Dad2012
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