There's always a pattern when you take a step back , and look at any given situation when it comes to parent/child interaction.
1.He knows exactly how you, or significant other will respond to his wide variety of behaviors. Be it calm, and cool, or acting out.
2. Discover what his triggers are, and craft a response that is entirely opposite of what he expects. This will catch him off guard, and possibly diffuse a potential outburst.
3. Consistency is the key.
4. Sounds like daily structure, and routine are critical.
5.Lastly for now, is what message are you sending when you praise, or discipline your son. Do not make promises that you may have to alter. If at any time you have to reprimand with a verbal warning, and he violates it, you MUST follow through with said consequences, if you fail to enforce it, subsequently the message you have sent is that there is NO price to pay for disobedience. Etc.......
PS. BOTH PARENTS MUST ACT IN CONCERT, MAKING AN AGREEMENT TO BACK THE OTHER UP FOR PARENTING TO SUCCEED IN ANY OF THESE CIRCUMSTANCES.

GOOD LUCK TO YOU ! And I am, Your Sad_Dad2012