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I think you already have many of the answers you wish, by the way you define yourself, and what you posted?

People like him, well, there is no helping them IMHO... he isn't asking for the help, he's happy as a lark ah hem having his cake and eating it too pardon the analogy.

Oh well, he's another "looter" as I have called them here...

I'm sorry you are on the short end of the stick in this relationship, and wish for you to be able to find your own life, be your own person, and maybe then find someone who you deserve....

<font color=blue> meditation is a true way to connect to the Source </font color=blue>