Who would become enmeshed with their t? Hmm. If you can see it, you probably aren't susceptible to it. If you can't see it - ie you are enmeshed and you are unable to see it - one, you have kind of a bad therapist for even letting that happen. Like you both have bad boundaries. I saw this more as a mother/child or "adult" relationship problem than a therapy issue. Why am I answering this?! Am I enmeshed? That has certainly been my pattern. I sort of enmesh by myself with the other person nearby but ignoring me. Which is totally weird. So I think t is trying to break in and also get me to reach out.