My sense is that she does CARE at a personal level, but all her advice seems to be geared to invalidating all of my feelings.

"Why does it matter if you're the only one who does chores?"

"Why does it matter if you have fights? All couples have fights?"

"How do you know if your partner is really yelling? There's a difference between raising your voice and yelling!"

Grr....

Combined with the couples' issues we've been having, this session just left me feeling deflated, depressed, and defensive.

I wanted to say that to her, actually-- I wanted to say "It's not that I feel freaking betrayed by you, it's that you're being hard on me, and everything is already hard!!!" (!)

I am not sure if the best way to go about this is to go back, I mean, really, when there are two people in the room, I'm sure it's more than twice as hard on the therapist. But the question is can she really be impartial. She was personally affected by my email, I am sure (I cancelled after our second session with a somewhat emotional email). I apoligized I'm not sure that's enough.