my divorce was horrbile to, and then came the custody battle, and 4 years later we r still fighting over everythign about the kids, so im still miserable, but i jsut hit rock bottom last month real hard, and I said to my self, he cant control anymore, his lies cant affect me, he cant hurt me anymore, were done, I need to be happy. Walk away, ignore him,dont fight with him, dont listen to his crap, find new friends, ignore new completely, let him know he cant get to u, even if he is. its hard at first then it gets easy. give it a couple days before say it doesnt work, but if u give it your all, i bet it will. good luck