Hi Wolfgang,
I can relate to getting irritated often. For me it's probably once everyday, before it was more like three times a day when I was driving to work. I still get extremely irritated when driving and I also come up with plots to get back at people...I find that driving is draining because of that.
As for what worked in the past for me was some of these exercises in the power of now book...because it helped me personally to rationalize why I would feel so irritated at these drivers, or any people or situations that would irritate me. In the case of driving and irritability, when someone would cut me off, I would feel threatened. This fear translated itself into anger, and anger is a product of fear. What I came to realize is that in the moment I am safe and there wasn't any accident...it's hard to do in the moment, but when I feel myself wanting to plot against people, I try to remind myself that.
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