Many years ago, before 1) Viagra, 2) widespread internet connectivity, 3) my personal deep familiarity with mental health, 4) the invention of the politically correct term ED=erectile dysfunction...

I had a lover in NYC. I first lived in TX and then in CA so it was mostly LD.

He had no feeling down there either. None at all.

He had a huge library and I remember spotting a book about Prozac (there are too many of them and I cannot recall which one he had on his shelf, Amazon.com: Books about Prozac and other Antidepressants). So in hindsight, now that I have been through what I have been through, having taken a number of psychiatric drugs with their sexual side effects, I surmise that he must have been depressed and on AD's. But back then we did not talk about mental health. He just told me that during the most important love relationships of his life (he was in his 50s) he was impotent (that was the politically incorrect word used back then).

OK.

His penis had absolutely no life to it at all and I avoided looking at it because it was... uninspiring.

But everything else worked. The DOWN THERE did not work but the UP THERE did work. He met the definition of a guy who is smitten with a lady - wanted to marry me (I did not take him seriously and regret it in hindsight); daily oral (and, quite passionate and not mechanical) and manual sex; was in fact quite proud of his ability to give me multiple manual orgasms; took countless pictures of me (he was a lawyer with a photography hobby and was quite good) - not naked, no, but still, he was behaving in a normal fashion. Because there was no Skype, we mostly talked on the phone, and he enjoyed listening to the sounds of my masturbation orgasms (no sex talk, just the sound of orgasms) and reacted in a very passionate manner, over the phone, and I liked his reactions on the phone line.

So it seems to me that with that guy in NYC, he had a BUG - the non-working penis. But he did not have a DESIGH FLAW - his brain was working fine.

In the case of your bf, it seems that he has a DESIGN FLAW. That is a much deeper problem.

I imagine that the BUG of my former lover (currently, just a friend over phone/email) is now fixable by VIAGRA (I am not in the kind of relationship with him now to express any interest in that matter, so I am purely conjecturing). DESIGN FLAWS cannot be fixed so easily.

So, I am really sorry, since your bf does seem to be a good match for you in the non-sexual realm!!