So... I am presently speechless.

I was considering - considering, but not being really sure of - having sex with an old friend/former classmate of mine. We were classmates in mid-1990s. My single sexual experience with him was not pleasant, back then, but now that we reconnected, and now that I have had success slowly growing to like sex with another guy I am not passionately in love with, I thought that I could possibly try and see where it leads us.

Back then, the guy was seriously interested, wanted to marry me and have many children together etc. I had one child back then.

Well, we have had exchanges about sex over email and I am so glad we had those exchanges because now I certainly will never have sex with him and I am glad that things got clarified during written exchanges and not in bed.

Besides the fact that he expects to have his sexual needs met, which prompted me to become so desirous of legal prostitution in California - and does not use condoms relying on being with the right people rather than trash (he actually called them "raincoats" - he is 54 and claims that women of his generation use the Pill and I do not know the emoticon for ROLLED EYES, sorry), he ...

...quoting verbatim...

was not interested in sliding into a vagina that has given birth three times in a raincoat as that would not give him a twinge of excitement.


Again, I am ecstatic that all of that transpired in writing and no clothes were taken off.

He then sent me about 20 short rude emails. I have not responded to them.

Not receiving any response, he then completely switched his tune and is now sending normal emails not related to sex. The last email was about his past difficulties with learning Polish which he wanted to learn in the course of his genealogical explorations. So, whatever. I know I did the right thing ignoring the rude emails. I might or might not stop any sort of correspondence, but since I will see him during the alumni weekend, I have an interest in being formally on OK terms, to avoid awkwardness.

But still... has anybody else (any woman who has given birth, on here) ever been told THAT about her vagina?

Basically, he was justifying his "need" to receive unprotected blowjobs. Again, there should be legal prostitution for such people and they should file complaints with brothel administration on safer sex policies if they cannot get what they need in terms of unprotected sex.

The interesting part was that he made that statement about a vagina that has given birth three times amidst of calling me a whole bunch of foul names, some from plain English and others from psych terminology (narcissistic, etc.), and his claim was that I was being cruel and debased in not appreciating the beauty of his tender soul and everything that he wanted to offer me by way of a wonderful long-term relationship.

He always boasts that he has the most rational mind of all, as per some sort of psychological evaluation that was done 20 years ago and allowed him to win the custody of his daughter.

So I wonder how rational it is to do what he has been doing...