Thanks again for all the comments and hugs. My posts are being checked so I think you all responded before my own first response above

Antimatter - I am starting to think that maybe I have gone as far as I can with this T. I've worked out from reading here that CBT is unlikely to help me in the way i need. But she has been a part of my life for a long time so the thought of moving on is hard.

Anne - I like the idea of telling her I am disappointed. It's a good word and it says what I feel without being confrontational. I was so frustrated by her reactions at the time, that I know I can't just leave it. In a way I feel I shouldn't have to say anything outright, she should just KNOW from my reactions. But the sensible part of my feels that I should at least explain what I want before hot-footing it out of her door.

Stopdog, you are right, I haven't told her directly what I want. I think I pushed it as far as I could at the time . When she kept saying I should move on, I was asking, what if I can't do that, what if I can't forget about my past, and she was saying, you can't change your past, it's just a memory, don't let this affect how well you are doing now. In the end I stopped questioning her, and it was the end of the session anyway. I hope after some time away from her I will be able to be more direct.