You know the more I think about it, the more I see how much of a baby my brother is. How similar he is with my mom. Maybe that's why she adores him. Maybe she knows how much I m like my dad and she doesn't approve of that since she hasn't had the best relationship with him all these years. Maybe she doesn't know it but maybe she resents me for that? I don't know just a thought.
I was thinking back about a month ago, a few days right after Easter actually. I was with my mom and daughter. My mom insisted on me getting out and seeing baby furniture. I didn't want to because I was unsure how the baby was at the time, but I did it because I knew it made her happy. As we were driving back home my brother called her. She told him we were out shopping. He was questioning her why I was out because I'm supposed to be so sick. Whatever, I just looked out the window. She hung up a few minutes later he called again. This time I heard her mention my sons name. When he was through, I asked her about it. She said " oh your brother was upset because of text messages your son sent him, and that your son should learn respect" naturally I wanted to kill my brother. My mom said my brother is immature and that he can dish out and not take it.
I knew what it was about though. My brother always promises to do things with my son like go to the park, or batting cages, or a baseball game and never comes through. That particular day he was supposed to take him out and never called him. My son texted him and my brother blew him off, so my son told him not to bother with him anymore. Anyway this had happened three days before he called my mom in the car. So basically my brother was pissed off knowing I was out with my mom " shopping" and had to start trouble.
I'm sick of this behavior, this weird sickness. My mom even said to him, I've talked to you everyday since this happened and you never mentioned it, why now? I was just kind of annoyed that my brother didn't come to me with it. It's about my son. I mean why would he bad mouth my son to our mother? I realize the answer is this is what my mother has taught us. But still, it's ridiculous. My brother fighting with his nephew, his godson. Makes me sick.
I am just so sick of going along wi everything. Going along with my brother treating us all like dirt and it goes unnoticed. I'm tired of kissing their butts because of their feelings. Well, what about mine?
You know my husband is a lot like my mother, the difference is my husband always speaks the truth. He is extremely honest, you will never get excuses from him. He is very upfront and that's the way he's always been. Sometimes a little too upfront but he doesn't hide his feelings. I think sometimes that is hard for my mother and brother. They are not used to such honesty and I don't think they like it.