My daughter just sang a solo in chorus from the musical Wicked. My bright (or dark) idea was to dye roses black, and green (to take the sting out of pure black roses) for mothers day. Plus I thought it would be a neat experiment. The 11yo jumped on the idea. I do love the Wicked colors.

Being wicked didn't work. After two days of soaking (and the roses looked sickly, and not black) I accidentally knocked the jar of black dye all over my kitchen. Supreme mess and a spike in my blood pressure.

I can try to forgive my mom, but passive aggressive vengeance doesn't help soothe the wounds. I can, however, keep a distance and limit my daughters visits.

I hope all goes better with your mom. I totally feel for you. If this behavior of your moms is long standing I do thing a T is a good idea - for both of us.

My best,