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May 13, 2013, 10:33 AM
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Member Since: Mar 2009
Location: US
Posts: 13,284
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Originally Posted by ultramar
From what I just posted and my own thoughts, I think it does have to do with a lack of boundaries, but at the root of that, a lack of a strong sense of identity. I think experiencing a great deal of emptiness and a lack of a strong sense of self must be terrifying and can lead to seeking and craving someone who will fill this hole, especially if the other person does have a strong sense of self. That hole is then filled by taking on the characteristics of the other, taking them on as one's own, and being terrified of losing that person -because in losing them, you quite literally lose your'self.' So I suppose in a way, maintaining that relationship becomes a matter of life or death.
I think that being the case, sacrificing one's individuality is a small price to pay in order to continue existing.
I think there's a lot more to it, but this may be one aspect.
How do people think this can play out in the therapeutic relationship?
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WOW! You've just explained why I can't quit therapy. 
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