Sounds like...

If he wants something and you don't then he has learned that if he sulks or complains enough then you will give in and he will get what he wants.

Relationships are supposed to be two way streets. Sex is a very intimate thing... But there are other things that can become issues too... If he always wanted to choose the TV channel then that could become a problem too.

> He says it's because it's the only way he can truly express his love for me.

So it is about him. Because it doesn't sound like you feel loved when he withdraws his affection when you don't give him what he wants.

I'm sorry SpazKatt... But 'no' means no. Doesn't matter if you have said 'yes' before, doesn't matter if you have been married for 50 years if you don't want to have sex then 'no means no.

And if he can't respect that then... He isn't respecting you.

Sounds like this is the first major test of your relationship. What I would do... Just what I would do... I would say that just because you don't want to sleep with him at that moment (or that day or that week) it doesn't mean that you don't care about him.

If he really cares about you then he needs to understand that him getting to 'express his love' is one thing and his doing stuff that results in your feeling loved can be quite another. Maybe you could tell him some of the things that make you feel loved?

He could pick you some flowers or make you breakfast in bed or tell you how much he loves you.

Sometimes guys don't know about those kinds of things... And sometimes guys don't know that there are other things that can make people feel loved...

I would ignore him when he sulks. Leave if that is an option. Say 'I said 'no'. It doesn't mean that I don't love you 'cause I do. I need you to respect my decision though'. And if he keeps on leave. He will whine for longer... Sulk for longer... If he learns that he can outsulk your refusal. Like toddlers packing a tantrum you need to train him...

And if he doesn't get it... I'm sorry sweetie but you deserve someone who knows how to respect you.