Hi ~ I'm so sorry this has happened, but please -- don't drink. As a recovering alcoholic, I can tell you that it does NOT make anything any better. In fact, it makes things worse. Not only that, but you NEVER know when you're going to cross that invisible line into alcoholism. Oh sure, you will tell me that "you can handle it." Well, that's what *I* said too! But lo and behold I ended up a full blown alcoholic! And I fought that addiction for 20 years before I got sober. Do you want that to happen? I doubt it. So please -- stop drinking before you cross that line. You have NO idea the guilt, shame and remorse that you'll find if you don't stop.

As far as your marriage, I certainly wouldn't be sitting around waiting for him to make up his mind. He's out dating like he was a bachelor! This is not only embarrassing for you, but it hurts too! How could he have just blown away your wedding anniversary? And gee, thanks for Mothers Day breakfast. But you're not his mother! Your kids should have taken you out, not him.

While you're waiting for him to make up his mind, why not file for legal separation? At least that way you'd have some LEGAL protection. For instance, he couldn't all of a sudden come home and tell you to get out of the house cause he was bringing some bimbo home with him!!! You need legal protection. So talk with an attorney and do it before HE does. Get some things set in stone!!! And don't be "nice" to him cause he hasn't been "nice" to you and he won't be if he sees an attorney either!!! God bless and please take care. Hugs, Lee