"Not endearing"?? You are not trying to be your personal best on a dinner date to impress someone (altho I had an ex who spoke to me like that, and it wasn't okay, either)...and "temper tantrums"? Totally unprofessional language with no filter instead of talking about your feelings and your reactions and why.
Maybe that T (and these other drs) have some of their own not-so-endearing qualities as professionals. You deserve better, don't let these people bring you down.