I am not insecure about my vagina. I, unfortunately, stopped doing Kegel exercises when my 2nd husband and I separated, and I was heartbroken and at that point of time could not even imagine being with another man. That was in 2009. So I need to resume. But back when I did a lot of Kegels, I could bring then husband to orgasm by squeezing the muscles - it actually was nice because it is enjoyable for a man not to do any "work" of thrusting but just relax and come.

So that part is OK.

I AM insecure because I seem to have an unusual ability to attract morons.

And while this guy - my former classmate - was writing those multiple venomous emails to me, he once asked if I thought that he was a moron.

I did want to say that no, I did not think so - thinking involves some degree of doubt, and I had no doubt by then that he was a moron.

But again, since he is not somebody anonymous from a dating site but someone with shared social contacts with me, he will get to live not knowing my views.

And since it all ended in a peaceful and mellow fashion, I am actually glad that I kept my potential retort about improving his ... ehem... girth to myself.