I've had the same response from my H, he claimed my T was "brainwashing" me into leaving my H (when I told him I was moving away because I needed space and separation to sort my life out).
Long backstory there, but yeah, my T has been the scapegoat, to the point that he's felt threatened by my H and it affected our sessions for a while until we cleared things up/regained trust in each other.
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