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Originally Posted by SummerTime12
I started therapy a little over a month ago and I think I've gone about 4 times. I have a few questions, so if anyone would like to answer them, that would be great!
I told my counselor a lot of thoughts I had and I was like "I have no idea what I'm thinking or why I feel like this about that, I don't even understand myself!" She responded "you've got me stumped!" She's said this twice now actually. It didn't bother me because in the end we figured out whatever it was, but is that normal?
Another thing, sessions are 45-60 min and she always ends mine at 45, aside from 1 that was an hour. Is this her choice or can I ever ask for the 15 more min when she starts ending at 45 min? I'm totally fine with it either way, I would just want to know so that if I have something else to talk about I know if I can ask for more time or not.
Thanks!
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yes sometimes it is normal for a therapist to say things like "you've got me stumped" therapists are not this all knowing higher power and they cant read your mind. if you dont tell them whats going on then they are not going to know whats going on....my therapist used a christmas present as an example...someone hands you a wrapped up present...how are you supposed to know whats inside? sure you can shake it, drop it, and do all kinds of things before someone finally opens that present but even guessing may not tell the person what that present really is..
I can sit there in my therapists office and rattle off all my diagnosis and then say I dont know what Im thinking...well if I dont know what Im thinking how is my therapist going to know what Im thinking? she cant like the unopened christmas present the only way for someone to know whats inside is by opening up and telling the therapist whats inside.
the session length... sure you can ask your therapist for more time.. that doesnt necessarily mean shes going to give it to you. there may be a reason why she only does 45 minute sessions.. my own therapist does 50 minute sessions so that she has time to write up any notes for my files that she may need to do, and so that she can have a few minutes in between her clients to take care of her own needs like a bathroom break..therapists do need to go to the rest room, eat or get a beverage...check in with any phone messages and any number of other things too ...like my therapist says...its hard for her to concentrate on my problems if shes sitting there with a full bladder..the more you try to ignore nature the more you gotta go lol
when I need more time I let my therapist know and she schedules me for a double session (2 fifty minute sessions in one).