Only you can know what you think and feel and figure out where it is coming from based on your experiences. If you say you are stumped the counselor cannot tell you what you think and feel or why so they have to be stumped along with you. It is a mirror of you pulling a hat out of your rabbit and your counselor saying, "gee, you pulled a hat out of your rabbit, I saw that."

With the time, you need to talk to your counselor and get clear on her policy about the time and what she is doing. The time can be anything, from you seeming to have finished what you have to say/work on to your counselor running late that day to some other effort on your counselor's part to keep her day straight. There's no right or wrong way.