Heya.

I think that therapy may just help you out. Have you considered it? The fact that you admit and are aware that this problem is yours deserves some kudos too, hard to admit a fault.

And the other thing is what you wrote..

You may have also figured out another reason why this is happening. You've too much time on your hands and that may be another contributing factor to your obsessing. Is there anything that you can do to try and keep yourself busy? For example, if you know that your g/f is doing something where she can't get in touch, then try and plan yourself to do something too. Keep yourself occupied and perhaps try to make some more friends. Ever considered classes, even if just for fun? Or as Confused says, perhaps try some volunteering if not working.

I would recommend trying to take control of this. She sounds a lovely lady, and very kind & considerate to reassure you all the time. It worries me tho that there may come a time when she starts to feel stifled, and be better to try and help yourself before that has a chance to happen.

Hugs.