Hi there,

My guess is her reason for saying it would be good to have a few more sessions if you are deciding to leave is just so that it doesnt end on a bad note and that you are sure you want to end and that you can conclude on what you have learnt over this period. Abrupt endings are not recommended so most therapists will at least ask that someone attends an ending session but its always up to the client at the end of the day.

You said you are afraid of commitment, but you have been with her in therapy for 3 years, that has been a commitment. Has she given reason to cause you to mistrust or is trusting others something you find difficult? Are you hoping by threateing to end that she will respond in a certain way? I guess there are many questions for you to answer but its important to be honest about your reasons to yourself and her.

At the end of the day progress is ultimately in your hands and your therapist guides you, so there is a level of joint responsibility but it's mainly yours. If you feel like you may work better with someone else, what could they do that she isnt doing? Maybe telling her what you want from therapy would help?

hope it works out for you