I don't think it's fair to resent your husband. People fight, end of. It's how we deal with things after we fight that is important.

If your mother was really mad at your husband and wanted nothing more to do with him, then she still could have a relationship with you. She could tell you that you are welcome at her home without her husband, or come to visit you when he is out. But no, am afraid she is punishing you instead - and your children.

This is not your husbands fault. She is in charge of her own actions, as tough as it sounds.

Hugs