There are times when others are considering options (not like suicide) but financial options, work options, no work options etc. I most often become aware of what they are discussing by having their considerations come in conflict with something else I have planed. Usually if I ask " what is on your mind? Does anyone have anything they want to say" someone will tell me something. I don't think they are trying to keep secrets. It's just I seem to have three groups that tend to talk amongst themselves. Maybe if you ask if someone is upset or planing on doing something to the body, they will tell you. Sometimes it's that simple.