I am doing trauma work in therapy and because I am so disconnected emotionally from my experiences my T is really trying to help me look at the feelings surrounding the trauma. He told me its like I am reporting the experiences but cut-off from the feelings....and he's right. I can see the experiences, use my adult brain to say how I must have felt, but I don't feel it...

For those of you who have done this kind of work....how do you begin to feel when your default mode has been to disconnect/dissociate? Is it just the more we talk and work with it the true feelings will emerge? I'm afraid my defenses are just so long-standing and built up, that it's near impossible for me to make progress on this kind of work.