Honey, a legal separation is NOT a divorce. So you're not really letting go. BUT you ARE protecting yourself, which you NEED TO DO! Please don't let this go on any longer -- make SURE in the separation papers, that what he is doing NOW continues to be done!!! Also make sure that you get the HOUSE and that he PAYS for it!!!

Sooner or later you're going to have to face facts. He LEFT you -- and he's been messing around with lots of other women. The fact is, he's CHEATING on you, and he's doing it a LOT. Do you want a man like that? And how can you forgive that? Doesn't he remember the vows that said "til death do we part?" i dont' know about you, but I took those vows very solemnly and seriously! Once a man cheats and is forgiven he normally does it again. Check the statistics.

He doesn't care what he's done to you, or what he is continuing to do to you. It's all about HIM. When he says "he doesn't know what to do" and all that crap, it's total nonsense. He just doesn't have the NERVE to ask you for a divorce -- he's waiting for YOU to do it. What a jerk. It's time for you to get MAD. Mad that he threw you away after all those years. Mad that he's doing this in front of all your friends and family. Just plain MAD.

Believe me, I'd be filing for DIVORCE in a heart beat, and I'd take him to the cleaners!! But that's me. I'm Irish, and I would NOT let this man make a FOOL OF ME.

God bless you my friend. I know you're hurting, but this hurt is going to continue until YOU do something about it. Please take care and let us know what happens, okay? Big hugs, Lee