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Default Nov 05, 2006 at 03:12 PM
 
hmm would that be the same thing (what your T is doing to you) as, "Well since you don't know how to take it, I won't give it to you in the first place."

To me, that ventures on, "You don't deserve encouragement because you never accept it anyway." Which moves you on to, "I must be a terrible person because I can't even accept praise." And might even move to: "No one gives me praise because I'm not deserving of it."

No, in my opinion, a good T continues to give encouragement and praise so that you begin to believe you do deserve it and then can begin to accept it. The T should model the behavior and continue with the effort. If you balk, then T should counter your balk, but continue to reinforce that you ARE deserving and learning how to do this IMO

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