I have feeling that I want to be close to people as it was something I lacked when younger but to get too close is dangerous so before that happens I do something to sabotage the relationship. For instance I can manage to make friends but when it gets too intimate I stop communicating. I think I just had an "aha" moment there. I'm off to write it in my little notebook.

I think that for those of us with trust issues or have had our trust violated, the T relationship becomes difficult to manage. Where else in life do we find someone who unconditionally and without judgement hangs on our every word? Who is there week after week to only help us improve our lives? We begin to realize that we have wants and needs that are not being met in real life and we expect the T to fall into the same trappings as our other relationships. And sometimes, it is such an awesome gift that having this other person witness your pain or struggles that you feel like they will surely cause you pain or disappointment- so we push back first.