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Old May 14, 2013, 09:00 PM
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Originally Posted by ickydog2006 View Post
I'm glad you are trying anti-depressants. Although they won't fix the underlying problem, they can help. I think you know the reasons why you do it, you just don't know what to do about it. I wish I could say something to help, but I have nothing right now, except I know how you feel. And your wife seeking love elsewhere has way less to do with you, and more to do with her internal struggles. I hope your therapist can help you find other coping skills.

P.S. As much as it hurts reading your struggles, in a couple months it will be 8 years for me, and it is an important reminder that all it takes is one cut for it to go right back to the way it was for me.
I feel ashamed of doing what I did. It didn't help things for long, I felt some temporary relief but the problems are still there. I think I did it because I felt so bad I wanted something to give me some relief. It is hard enough to deal with depression in itself but everyday stress and marital problems make it really difficult.

I think I need better support. I should say I need a support system. I don't know how to trust someone with how bad, bad is for me. I tried telling my wife about my struggle and it seems my marriage isn't doing good, or I should say I don't have any trust left for her. I question why I should even stay. There is more heartache for me then enjoyment.
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