My STUPID trigger is my daughters father. Absent 10 years of her life, and tries to control everything, pay nothing. She's missed more school this year than her entire school career. She had a fever the other day, and he tried to allude that maybe it was because we had to sign a lead waiver at our apartment complex. He works with someone who lives in our complex and so he knows they had to sign a waiver.

Standard form for houses/complexes for lease or rent built before 1978. He lives in a house older than that and said well he didn't have to sign a waiver. His landlord was amiss in that.
A fever isn't even a sign of lead paint poisoning in children. She's 11 and not teething on the wood in the apartment.

The guys a f-ing idiot. I think she's been sicker than usual because his work schedule allows for no consistency, and he moved 15 miles away, which means she has to get up an extra hour every school morning she's with him to drive through city rush hour traffic. I think she's back and fourth too much (7 overnights in a 4 week period) and its not concurrent days. She's run down.

He also claimed her on his 2011 taxes, when he only just met her in May of that year and paid less than $500 in child support that year, or ten years really. That's tax fraud. He won't pay for anything extra, school pics, her extracurricular activities, her school field trips, her clothes, nothing. Just the child support he was underpaying for over a year. It's all about what he can get and never about what's best for her. Ever.

Ok my blood pressure is rising just writing about it. He's probably part of the reason I went totally manic. And I'll have to deal with him another 7 years, and our legal agreements aren't even final. He's paid around $15K for a lawyer, and I can't afford one to protect my child. I'm not against him being in her life, I just want consistency and structure for her. Life is not fair. I've always struggled with that.