Hi. welcome to PC....the best way i have found to work on my self esteem is to build a file cabinet of good things about me. the best thing is you only have to start with one thing. what is one strength that you have? an indisputable fact? for me, it was that i am a good writer, professional writer, not poster, lol....no matter how down on myself i was, i could always say..and believe...cause you have to believe it..that i was a good writer. i write excellent reports for the court...i have court documents where the judge has stated how good they are to prove it...so that is my indisputable fact. so any time i criticized myself about something, i could say, yeah but, youre a really great writer to contradict the negative thing i said about myself. then i could add that i was helpful to others, i was great at my job, my boss really cared about me. the list just kept getting bigger and bigger. i would file away compliments to use and eventually i had a whole file drawer of good stuff. it ends up getting easier and easier. a simple tip to remember is when you do good, you feel good so make choices that are going to make you feel good in life. when you feel good, your self concept goes up.