It's totally just my opinion but I kind of think that love is a choice. I can't go by feelings alone. My feelings lie too much (when I can even figure them out). But I can choose to love someone, regardless of things. My feelings can change based on how I or the other person reacts or acts and there are some days that I don't find that person very likable (as I'm sure other people don't always find me likable). But I still choose to love that person.

Also, I have to go more by actions. If that person says they "love" me or I say I love them, what do their actions say, what do mine say?

As LMo said though, I guess it depends on what angle you are looking at it and why. I hope you find your answer.