I would not deal with obviously ignorant doctors/medical personnel and I'd ask to speak to a bank supervisor if your bank gives you a hard time. My stepson is extremely tall and gets asked "how tall" by everyone, no one taking a moment to think and figure it out (talk about "lazy") that they are not the only ones asking and that it is a personal question. But he routinely complains to supervisors if bank tellers, etc. are so rude as to ask rather than to just conduct his business. Keep your anger/indignation and self assertion/boundaries with the obvious idiots but remember too, some medical personnel actually need to know what your disabilities are so they do not prescribe or do any procedures that might conflict with your disability treatment.