You sound a lot like myself (lol Imma geek too, my good sir ), and I can very easily put myself in your position.

Try not to be so concerned about it. The key to it is communication. Don't be afraid to have an open line of communication about that aspect of your life together. Furthermore, and pragmatically speaking, I would think if there were any serious "problems" she was picking up, she would bring it up.

But communication, and as Hamster suggested "desensitization," is the best route to go. As long as you love her as much as you do and as long as you're willing to talk, everything will be fine.

Hugs,
Harley

PS: You mentioned deployments. I would be remiss if I did not thank you for your service to our country.