Thank you Pierro,

I'm not at all concerned that either of my kids would think it's their fault that I'm sad. One of my biggest concerns is that my 16 yr old daughter, though she really loves and appreciates her mom, seems compelled to look out for me and protect me (as I do with her). When we sat the kids down to tell them that we weren't getting back together, without a word or expression my daughter moved from her spot and sqeezed next to me and held my hand to be sure I was comforted.

I'm really afraid of her knowing how weak and shattered I am now and haven't figured out how to tell her what's happening without her wanting to take on the responsibility of my well being. It's supposed to be the other way around!