Thanks for your post fox. I am currently uncertain where I stand in the did/dd spectrum of things, but I definitely dissociate. ...and I would definitely love not to! for me, I don't imagine this necessitates the elimination of all voices, little's, or alters. But it does mean being one me all the time. If your interpretation of integration is similar - and I do think its open to some interpretation then yes, my goal is similar to yours.
I'm really sorry you were met with such opposition. I think that was very disrespectful of people. It sounds like at least some of them may have been purely ignorant of what you're going through. Others, while they have the right to disagree shouldn't have tried to force their own values about did on you as the only ones that are correct.
I hope you can look forward to finding some other people who are more open and/or like minded to you.