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Perna said:
Everyone has a different sex drive and needs. Each partner should have respect for the other's interests. I think your boyfriend is not thinking of the relationship as much as he's thinking about his own pleasure? Pouting isn't a very mature way to deal with it either. I'd try to work on the relationship as a whole and then, when that is on track, work on individual "parts". Maybe couple's therapy would help?

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IMO - (20 yrs married) - I do not think that he is necessarily getting upset because he cannot get his sexual pleasure without her involvement, but rather that he is HURT when she says NO....... for saying NO to any ones partner when they are wanting to be sexual (male or female) is like saying NO to them the PERSON (feelings, needs & all), and we all know all to well that NO can HURT and hurt DEEP.

BTW - I personally in 23 years of a relationship and 20 years of marriage with the same man.... I have only said NO to his sexual advances 3 times (not counting being sick or after having a baby), for I understand the emotional need behind a man his woman and their bonding through making love.
Remember that SEX equals LoVe to a MAN connected emotionally to a WOMAN!!! - to a MAN in LOVE.

LoVe,
Rhapsody -