I have been married for 7 years now and we have never had a sexual connection, she said she just didnt get horny so I took the high road and for the most part never complained about it. I though it was had to do with her hormones and that is what she told me so I was very compassionate and supportive. I am a really sensitive person and a lot of the times when we argue or discuss our marital issues it cannot hold back my emotions and I cry. To me its a self esteem issue, she tells me that when I get down and depressed it kills the physical attraction and she does not see me as the type of man she wants to be intimate with. We do not have a sexual connection and when we do have sex it never lasts for more than a few minutes before I finish and it leaves me so hurt that I cannot show her the type of intimacy that she needs. I am destroyed over it because it comes off as selfish and that is not what I am trying to be. I dont know what to do anymore, she says she loves me and wants to stay married to me and that is the only thing keeping me going. I have my doubts that she hasnt looked into some sort of escort or craigslist, we had a few issues with that as well that has lead me to not trust her but as always I blame myself. Its hard to initiate sex with her when she is not attracted to me so it usually ends up her being frustrated because she doesnt feel it and there is no opportunity to explore more options. I feel frustrated because I have always remained faithful and committed but it seems like I am paying the price for my sexual inadequacies even though she is the one who had an online affair with someone and I found out about it. If anyone can give me some honest advice that would be great. I dont want a divorce because I think its an easy way out and as a society we have forgotten what it means to fight for what you love and stick together to work it out so that our children do not get affected by our selfish actions. Thank you kindy