If you still love her, and she loves you, her sexual attraction or lack thereof seems more to do with her than with you. She mentions she was this way with her ex boyfriend as well....she is not opposed to random sex with Craigslist people though? (Yikes, by the way)

This isn't you. This is her. She has some kind of commitment and intimacy issue. I don't think it's hopeless. I think you guys need to go to counseling....and address this. She is going to go through this with any man she has a relationship with, probably. I feel bad for both of you.

She shouldn't have married before this issue was resolved, but everyone messes up, she probably thought it would fix it. I'm sure she feels guilty.

Just because she thinks she isn't "sexually attracted" and her panties don't catch fire every time you look at her doesn't mean she can't get turned on by you, and is physically incapable of it.

If you both wanna work it out I think go to counseling asap. Hubby and I went to counseling, it was helpful.

I can imagine the sex isn't to good for you and leaves you empty and hurt, if she is trying to watch TV the whole time, or filing her nails.

If you can get her to make out with you first and rub up all on her, you can probably get her pretty horny. That is sexy, for a woman, or at least I think so, because I can go from quit it I'm watching TV to omg give it to me now....in fifteen or twenty minutes. Lol.

Does she want you to be forceful and "macho" with her? Well here, since I don't know any of you, I will share a female fantasy lol.

I'm home baking pie. (Never happens). I am also wearing a vintage 1950s style dress, complete with ruffly apron, heels, and an appropriate June Cleaverish hair style. (Not likely). My entire kitchen looks like something off a 1950s sitcom. My husband arrives home from work, wearing a suit and carrying a briefcase a la Ward Cleaver. This would be also very uncharacteristic, but apparently we are sort of the Cleavers now. He walks into the kitchen....our eyes meet. He comes over and starts making out with me furiously, and then having wild crazy sex with me all over the kitchen....table, countertops, etc. We finish this business up against a wall, actually knocking stuff down. As I am catching my breath, he grabs me, kisses me, grins at me, and wipes off my lipstick that is now all over him, and says, "Honey, I'm home." Then he smacks me on the butt, and goes in the other room.

Lmao...my friends and I were trying to think up fantasy sex encounters one time and everyone loved this idea.

She needs to stop saying, I give up, you just don't turn me on. Love is a choice, and it is work. It doesn't just happen. If I left my husband every time he didn't turn me on or annoyed me, the ink wouldn't have dried on our marriage license, much less twenty years!