What kind of therapy does your T practice? This sounds almost like she wanted the transference/love to happen...in psychoanalysis I know that's a big part of healing but for other types of therapy transference isn't necessarily beneficial and the T won't deal with it at all.

From what I understand the way to deal with transference/love is to establish a normal adult relationship where you can express the same feelings in a healthy manner and they will diminish toward your T as you experience someone who is really there for you. If you can't transfer the feelings you have for your T into another relationship then it will continue to get worse, you have to realize that the T can never be a substitute for a real person in your life.