hamster, he wouldn't mind good drawn out sex w/ me dissociated.

As for me, if it is anything other then a quickie, it is hard for me to stay present. Dissociated is like eating that piece of toast or the rest of that orange, and wondering WOW Where did it go. I don't even know if it was good or not, if I at it or lost it.

Sometimes dissociated sex that is drawn out is just a waste of an hour. His efforts and my time, plus he walk away w/ hurt feelings because it happened for him and I gave up on it happening for me. If I dissociate then I can't help things along or be a active participant in my own happiness. It could be good or be bad dissociated I wouldn't know the difference. I don't know how to stay present or if I want to be present.

Sex should not be this stressful. Isn't it supposed to be a good thing?