I posted a thread in the healthy parenting forum but got little response, so I thought I would post here.

My daughter just turned 12 and weighs a healthy weight for her height and age and all. However she thinks she is fat. This is not the first time she has made comments about being fat. She has made them since she was about 8 or 9. Saying things like she has fat thighs, she has a fat belly, etc. Knowing that I have anorexia, I want to put a stop to this as soon as possible. She knows that I have been hospitalized twice for it and has asked me a few questions. I have always told her that she is beautiful and that she is not fat at all. I should also mention that she is a dancer, so she has that to deal with too. Her father used to call me fat and I am afraid that he has started in on her. I really don't know what to do. She is starting to be a picky eater and will eat only when she feels like it, sometimes she doesn't eat dinner. I don't want to force her to eat, but I also don't want her to think that it is ok to not eat. Any thoughts on if I should try and get her into therapy now or if I should wait til she shows more signs?