To me love is sticking together through good times and hard times. We have come out stronger in our relationship especially after comming out of some hard times. Our love has grown into something deeper, not lust but real love and respect for each other. We each have our own activities and we don't really share hobbies together but as it's said differences attract. I suppose it must be true as we have been married 21 years and we've known each other for 23 years. I feel we are still young. We are in our early forties and our kids are grown up so we still have a whole life ahead of us.