Sorry about all this going on, must've been a real shock to you both.
I agree with both posters above. It's a heck of a time for you all, but I also think it's really important to remember the kid too - he's stuck in the middle of all this. He's the innocent little thing in all this and didn't ask to be born in these circumstances.
I hope that if your fella is the father, that you all manage to sort things out for the best. Sure, it will effect your relationship with your fella, but it doesn't have to be for the worse. It's just going to be different. Keep talking, keep working together. Let yourself voice some of your fears so he can listen to you, but if you can, show support and understanding to your fella too.
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Originally Posted by heartbroken10
I'm scared that if he is the dad he will prioritize his son and not our future. Which might sound selfish but I can't imagine us building our future now because he will spend all his money and time on the kid.
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The above you wrote. I think you may be worrying about nothing - but time will tell of course. But if you guys are strong for each other, I can see no reason why he can't build a future with you in it too. Sure, he'd hopefully be there for the boy, but am positive he's enough time and love for you too. You, as everyone else in this, will have to learn to adapt to the new situation if you want to be with him.
Wishing you and yours all the best
Hugs