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It gets to the point where I don't want to say no because he get so upset, then I'm not happy... basically no matter what I end up feeling bad! He says it's because it's the only way he can truly express his love for me.

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I can so relate to where you are coming from, Spaz. I'd love to tell you exactly what to do, but I cannot. What I do know from experience is this: If you continue to "give in" all the time (we have to sometimes), you will come to a point where you will hate sex and possibly even being touched. This is what happened to me; and

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BTW - Males often express their love for another through - a sexual relationship & through providing financially for the ones they love.

LoVe,
Rhapsody -

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Rhapsody has it right. Men are generally physical, not emotional. They tend to prove their love just as Rhapsody explained. Accepting that this is the way most men are taught to express themselves may help to understand your boyfriend better. Won't necessarily make things easier for you, especially since you are both still young and learning to navigate and negotiate relationships, but knowing these facts can help.

My experience has been that if an agreement/conciliation cannot be reached in this area of a relationship, it is bound to fail.

This is not an easy subject to discuss, by any means, and even harder to understand and accept each other's needs and desires without feeling guilt, hurt, shame, etc.

As hard as it may be to accept, this may not be a good time for you to be in a relationship (or at least a sexual one).

HONOUR YOUR FEELING FIRST! If there is one area that you must feel good about in a relationship, it is this one.

I think he is also being a tad "dramatic." No matter what guys say, they don't need it all the time. They just want it all the time.

This may be a good thing as it will allow you the opportunity to see, rather quickly, whether or not he has your best interests at heart (and truly cares) or if he is just in it for the short term.

One more thing: what you are requesting IS NOT UNREASONABLE, so do not allow him to make you feel otherwise.

Feeling for ya,

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