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Originally Posted by pheonix
What does it take? I feel so alone and so misunderstood. How am I suppose to explain what is going on with me to my family, friends, and children? How do I tell them about parts and explain bpd and ddnos to them, especially when family are a big part of the reason I am this way. I'm not trying to place blame, it is what it is, but I have very little support. Just spinning out. I feel like I need to tell someone that I'm working on integrating, but who do I tell that isn't going to make me feel crazy or discredited? If I tell people closest to me, I feel like they will treat me differently in a negative way. Idk. Also, when I signed up for this I accidentally spelled pheonix (user name)wrong and can't figure out how to get it changed. I sent a pm to a mod. but didn't get a reply.
This is just so messed up because on the outside, I spend a great deal of time and energy keeping an appearance of being well put together (well sort of), but wow what a hurricane inside with parts everywhere and lost time etc.
...and there it goes again, had something else I wanted to vent about or ask other about, but it is completely gone...
I apologize for being all over the place, having trouble getting my footing this am, and hating myself for feeling so vulnerable and negative.
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worried about your post being all over the place..no worries its very well put together, coherent not all over the place at all...
how do you tell your family friends and children... theres no need to tell them anything at all unless you want to and then tell them what ever you are comfortable with them knowing...
A good place to start in how to tell your family friends and children that you are going through integration is with your treatment provider.. what did your treatment provider tell you about integration....many people have different definitions/meanings for the same words even among treatment providers with want words they use to prepare their clients for the process and what to expect during the process...
only your treatment providers know how and what integration is going to be for you..so talk with them, let them know you would like to include your family, friends and children in this process and how to do so.
getting your name corrected...you did the right process of contacting one of the moderators.. they will tell you how to go about that.