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The part that makes me upset is, I believe my T wanted me to trust her, to basically "love" her, and then push back and set boundries.
Does the one have to negate the other? Can you trust and love her and fantasize about her without going over certain boundaries?
Did she say it was not okay to love/trust her/have fantasies about her, or is that okay, but just within certain boundaries? It seems you feel that in setting up certain boundaries, she was also saying it wasn't okay to love her, etc. Are you sure this is the case?
I wonder if both can coexist side by side...
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