Just remember. excessively worrying about others in your family doesn't make up for anything...it just makes you more miserable without any way to accomplish anything.

I have a friend who puts herself 200% into trying to solve everyone's problems when she has enough of her own to deal with. When we even mention a problem we are dealing with, she jumps into solve it mode even when she doesn't know anything really about the problem & has really no idea how to solve it....but she's sure in her mind that she has the solution & if you don't accept her solution, she gets a bit irritated.....not saying that's what you are doing.....but basically all the worrying in the world & all the problem solving thinking in the world by others most of the time can't solve the problems that we ourselves have been thinking through since we have known about the problem.....I have told her that unless I ask her for idea on solving the problem, the best thing she can offer is prayer for a solution to work out because most of the time by the time I even comment about a problem I have...I have already usually spent hours & hours trying to come up with a solution & have most of the direction planned out on how to proceed with the solution.....& sometimes there are no solutions & even she can't force a solution to happen & sometimes we just have to make the best out of the situation in hopes that something else will show up.

Unless the person is incapable of solving their own problems, they usually have more of the necessary information for the solution of their own problem than all our worrying can create & worrying without plans for a solution is a waste of energy....let them do the worrying & the thinking & the asking for whatever help they determine they need & be there to offer the help they might need, not the worrying