> No I don't "delegate out" my feeings to my alters.

Not consciously sure, I grant you that. But your unconscious processes did. That was what I was getting at.

There is this paradox of how repression is possible...

I won't get into it but basically... The thought on repression is that it goes a little like this... Tiny little aspects poke through to conscious awareness and we can either allow them to surface or we can push them back down. That is a conscious decision. It might not be a consicous decision (one might do it automatically) but it is something that you can learn to become aware of. Usually we aren't aware of those kinds of things because it is too frightening etc. That is why it helps to work on being able to accept feelings / memories / thoughts etc. In order to be able to accept them you need to be able to cope with them. That means having distress tolerance and emotion regulation skills. The acceptance skills aren't about trying to change anything... They are about accepting your mental processes. Learning skills of acceptance is about learning how to accept your mental processes. And as you are able to accept them as part of you you are working towards co-consciousness / integration.

> Im glad DBT can help others but it is not the way for ME.

Typically... One has to try something before one knows what will and will not work for one. Though of course if you have made up your mind already then you can always MAKE it true as a matter of self-fulfilling prophecy...